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Beginnings and Endings

8/15/2012

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    A few years ago I thought of an idea for a restaurant. It would focus only on appetizers and desserts (my favorite parts of a meal) and it would be called Beginnings and Endings. Sounds perfect, right? Something everyone can identify with – starting new and saying good-bye. Beginnings and endings are definitely universal experiences. I remembered this idea recently as I was talking to a friend at work - a friend who has now left to continue his education. [*sigh*] His leaving makes me think of the bigger beginnings and endings in my life.

    I mark time by relationships. I don’t remember events by the year they happened. I remember them by who was with me and the feelings that accompany the event. This is particularly true at work. I have worked at the same church for 13 years. For the years I have been there, I have had to say good-bye to 5 pastors, 7 program staff, 9 members of our office staff and 3 seminary interns. Even though we have a large staff for a church, we are cohesive and work well together. We meet regularly and play together frequently. It is hard to say good-bye. Each time someone leaves, I reflect on all the people I have worked with and have supported me as a colleague at Faith. 
·  I remember not only the past music director and pastor but the camp we created and ran for three years. It
was one of my first collaborative efforts in ministry and I learned a lot from them. 
·  I think about one of our youth directors and the mission trip I chaperoned with her. The experience of
that trip impacted me personally as it changed the way I interact with and think about the “invisible”people in our communities. 
·  And I am reminded of each of the pastors every time I open my desk drawer and see all the notes I took as I
listened to their sermons on Sunday morning. I can still hear each of their voices as I read their words in my own scribbled handwriting. Their words still ring true.

     But with endings come new beginnings. For the same amount of people who have left, we have welcomed new colleagues that bring their own unique set of gifts to our staff and our church. I can’t imagine my own professional life without many of them. I have grown and been challenged in ways that I know would not have happened if they had not joined our staff. I have had so many important relationships to mark time.

    I am smart enough to know that running a restaurant would be hard work. (I have seen the show Restaurant Impossible!) But beginnings and endings in the form of food would be much simpler for me to deal with than the complex emotions that come from changes in relationships. If you know about church life, you know that important and deep conversations happen there. Discussions literally about life and death. As professional leaders in the church, we have these discussions all the time. Many times they move from the professional slant like how I can help children understand God’s grace to the very personal of my coworker sharing God’s grace in my own life. It is an amazing and humbling thing when a relationship moves to one of such profound trust that people can wonder together about these life and death questions in such a personal way. 

    That is why it is so hard to say good-bye! Knowing that, I wouldn’t change what I do or where I work. As each new staff member is welcomed, I am reminded that God will be at work in this relationship too – in the beginning and in the ending.

~Pam

4 Comments
Judy Shutters
8/15/2012 04:41:02 am

I often think that we should start a meal with dessert first as that is one of my favorites and I am always too full at the end to have dessert. Very thoughtful words for your beginnings and endings....which I like and relate to in my own life especially as we say our hellos and goodbyes, Pastor Pam!

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Pam
8/15/2012 06:58:20 am

Thanks Judy. You and I think alike when it comes to eating!
I am also grateful that even though I said good-bye to you as a staff member, it wasn't good-bye from the congregation! :)
Pam

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Sarah Johnson
8/15/2012 09:39:35 am

Very nice Pam. My mom and I had dessert first a few years back when we went out to dinner one night. It wasn't as great an experience as we thought it would be. We giggled and laughed at ourselves for actually doing it, but I think all that sugar first up really ruined the nice meal. Anyway - I love the restaurant idea and how you applied it here. Thanks for sharing.

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Pam
8/15/2012 10:41:21 am

Thanks Sarah!

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